Short answer:keep out of harm's way. Here's the thing though;we have all been or will be,victim's of a myriad of unfortunate acts of nature. Storms will come-hurricanes,blizzards,floods,tornadoes,then there are earthquakes,droughts,volcanoes. Sometimes we get time to prepare so as to reduce the damages,but often we are blindsided by what we refer to as natural disasters. They are,no doubt,capable of producing stress and trauma. It is ,however,the unnatural acts that cause the kind of trauma which create the storms within that leave us with the threat of inclement coping.
Abuse in any form inflicted bestows upon it's victim a black cloud. If you are unfortunate enough to have it settle in childhood,it has the advantage of time to build it's fury,gaining strength through fear,shame,confusion,anger,and sadness. As these emotions go unresolved,the storm begins to form,and there is no preparation for the inner-tsunami,for such acts of human injustice are totally unpredictable and we have no recourse. It then becomes a case of damage control.
Life is a challenge-it isn't supposed to be a disaster. The biggest hurdle to overcome is blame. There is someone to blame;someone who willfully destroyed you. As much as it will never make sense that another human,possibly one whose job it was to love and protect you,could cause such suffering,it makes even LESS sense to not seek vengeance. If there is to be any chance of healing and wholeness in the wake however,there must be fertile ground in which the seed of forgiveness can be so planted so as to squelch the bitterness that automatically takes root. The tree of bitterness produces no good fruit.
Everyone knows that a life well-lived is the best revenge,right? The best way to not be a victim is to discontinue the negative behaviours and patterns of relating which keep us tethered to misery. Storms are inevitable,yes,but they always pass,no matter the duration. Don't let the rain put your fire out.
Abuse in any form inflicted bestows upon it's victim a black cloud. If you are unfortunate enough to have it settle in childhood,it has the advantage of time to build it's fury,gaining strength through fear,shame,confusion,anger,and sadness. As these emotions go unresolved,the storm begins to form,and there is no preparation for the inner-tsunami,for such acts of human injustice are totally unpredictable and we have no recourse. It then becomes a case of damage control.
Life is a challenge-it isn't supposed to be a disaster. The biggest hurdle to overcome is blame. There is someone to blame;someone who willfully destroyed you. As much as it will never make sense that another human,possibly one whose job it was to love and protect you,could cause such suffering,it makes even LESS sense to not seek vengeance. If there is to be any chance of healing and wholeness in the wake however,there must be fertile ground in which the seed of forgiveness can be so planted so as to squelch the bitterness that automatically takes root. The tree of bitterness produces no good fruit.
Everyone knows that a life well-lived is the best revenge,right? The best way to not be a victim is to discontinue the negative behaviours and patterns of relating which keep us tethered to misery. Storms are inevitable,yes,but they always pass,no matter the duration. Don't let the rain put your fire out.
